莫名其妙喜欢这个片子的中心思想和选择（虽然女主这个收入水平是换我我会焦虑死是不是得住中央公园帐篷里了而因此没有时间精力and金钱美丽）

让我想到前段时间看到的Sally Rooney一个talk里说的话：”what's really important and sort of the best I can do is to try and observe how class as a very broad social structure impacts our personal and intimate lives. Like how do we carry material realities and economic realities into our interpersonal relationships? And one way is through commodities. I mean, how important commodities and items, physical objects become to us. A sense of ownership over objects, a sense of possession. Also, the transactional nature of relationships, how it's so difficult to escape the transactional framework of capitalism, which dominates our whole existence. How difficult it is to escape that framework when it comes to our personal lives. How difficult it is to get outside a transactional way of thinking and try and build intimacy with other people that isn't dependent on sort of a notion of buying and selling.”

也许重点并不是爱，而是逃。如果重点只是爱，爱的本质和钱没什么不同，像片头的原始人一幕，工具和花朵，都是transactional的。

transactional的本质就是快速的，明码标价的，快消的，和不需要付出心力和责任的。而自主逃逸了框架的爱则才开始需要许多的责任和功课，以及检视。

这部电影因此诘问爱/passion就像诘问物质世界一样严厉。就像bell hooks在all about love里说的那样，爱不是“we continue to invest in the fantasy of effortless union.” effort is actually everything。

所以我觉得从女主去找Sophia开始，她开始付出effort，才开始真得超越框架看见对方，看见对方，进行沟通，哪怕困难，但也是在启发自己开始逃离之路。

我并不知道也不想知道电影结束后他们是否真得会白头终老，拜物教的反面也不是拜爱教。it must be something else。我觉得女主得到的epiphany that there’s something outside the sturcuture of materialism已经是很难得的体验了。比起她和美国队长选择在一起，我更喜欢她和Sophia的拥抱，以及之后她对美国队长说”you are the only reason that I know im capable of love。”这讲的是一种立足自己的能力，信念，练习，and dedication。即使他们不能在一起，他们进行了练习和实践，不仅在亲密关系中，也对生活中的其他人。

A question is a good enough beginning。